Did you ever wake up one morning thinking about something you wish would change dramatically in this world? I know I have as of lately. I’ve had something on my mind involving a subject that has been near and dear to me since my middle school years.
Now some people may say, “Wait, wait, time out. Hasn’t the world already evolved enough and become more supportive of women?” Okay, well, if some people want to see it that way, sure, but I’m saying “sure” with a side of skepticism here. While some areas of society have seen noticeable (yet slow) improvement over the years, the scary reality is society always (and always will) find more ways to restrict, demean, and harass women. It’s both horrifying and sickening to see the extreme pressures society puts onto women: from having to conform to a certain weight to being pressured to get married and have children, the list goes on. That’s not all. Some people in society seem to glorify men who push women around with horrible sexism as if they’re some “hero of masculinity.” It makes me sick to my core.
To put what I’m saying into a real-world example, I at one time witnessed a former co-worker (whom I’ll call John Nobody) sexually harass co-worker (Jane Somebody) right in front of me. When I called him out for his disgusting behavior towards here, John Nobody angrily said: “It’s the truth, dude!” While much of the verbal abuse John Nobody directed towards Jane Somebody is too graphic and unsettling for me to repeat, I realized the world had not yet progressed from its misogynistic ways towards women. I understand not all men are like this towards women, but I will always have a hard time believing men who say they support women, women’s rights, and gender equality when they contribute to discrimination and sexism towards women. To the fellow men who genuinely support women, I thank you.
Just as other allies of women feel, I too am fed up with society giving free passes to creeps while disrespecting women at the same time as if everything is “the woman’s fault.” How would they feel if it was a female friend or woman close to receiving the end of some jerk’s abuse? They’d probably want to knock his teeth out. But as far as standing up for other women? Forget about it. It’s because their own backward, distorted truths about women seem to leave them without the balls to show sensitivity to stand up for women. The scary thing is to some of these people, women are only good for sex and being a servant to men (basically the old-fashioned, 1950’s “barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen” mentality I despise with a passion). I don’t care who you are, and if you’re a friend of mine: if you demean, harass, and physically hit women, you are not welcome in my world. There’s a reason I’ve permanently ended friendships from a large number of people over the years.
If I could visualize a perfect world, it would be a world where women of all shapes, sizes, sexual orientations, and socioeconomic levels could wake up, go out and not be afraid of being judged for their looks or lifestyle choices. A world where women could walk into her dream job, whether it be a mechanic, astronaut, CEO, or software developer, and be celebrated for her achievements and promoted equally, free of discrimination or harassment. A world where a woman’s opinion is highly valued and not dismissed because “she’s a woman.” And lastly, a world where society treats women as human beings with feelings and brilliant ideas instead of as some pervert’s sexual fantasy. In a sense, I’d love to see a world where women can just be herself and express herself freely. That is all I ask. Is that so hard for the world to accommodate? Because after all, this is not just a “man’s world,” this is a world for women too.